I have been recovering from cross addiction, including sex addiction, for more than 23 years. It took many years to unravel and heal, and I needed a lot of support and love and understanding. The biggest hurdle for any addict to overcome is the debilitating and highly destructive state of denial. The inability of individuals to face up to their addiction to sex stops them from realising they actually have a problem. In the course of my journey, I have experienced and witnessed massive emotional dysfunction, the loss of jobs, relationships, family breakdown and imprisonment. This is painfully and brilliantly portrayed by Michael Fassbender’s character, Brandon, in Shame.